'Will you two just leave one another alone?'
The dos and don'ts of dealing with sibling fighting
45 minute workshop - pair with another 45 minute workshop.
To book this workshop please contact Bill Hansberry
They just seem to be at one another all of the time. Sometimes it seems as if my kids hate each other. Does this go on in other families or are we just unlucky!
The good news is that sibling fighting and sibling rivalry is as old as time itself! As soon as kids have to share the love and attention of parents as well resources in a home the stage is set for jealousy, challenge and conflict.
So what do we need to know to keep sibling conflict within healthy limits? That’s right – you won’t stop it entirely, but we do know that parents who school themselves in some fundamental knowledge about sibling fighting are able manage it in clever ways and stop scrapping between the kids completely dominating the vibe in the home.
In this funny and highly interactive workshop, taken from Chapter 4 of “Raising Beaut Kids” Bill puts sibling fighting and rivalry under the microscope as we look at:
What fuels sibling fighting
What parents unwittingly do that fires sibling fighting up
Whether your home is competitive or collaborative (we use a cool questionnaire for this)
What to do about getting your kids on the same team more of the time
What sibling abuse is and what you can do if things have gotten this bad
When to step in and when to step back and just observe your kids’ conflicts
How to teach the kids to restore peace in the aftermath of sibling conflict
Parents find this a truly enlightening workshop and often report almost instant changes that have come to their homes with just a tweak of a few of their responses to their kids’ fighting.
We really enjoyed the interactive participation using the social window to help us understand the different styles of parenting and what our default style is when we are under pressure. We could have a laugh and learn. Bill reinforced the idea that consequences were necessary but were not about hurting or punishing children.
Gilles St Primary School