Shame and Other Emotions of Connection and Engagement:
The Emotional foundations of Restorative Practices, Engaging Kid’s Hearts and Minds to bring Positive behaviour Change
2 hour through to a full-day Workshop
To book this workshop please contact Bill Hansberry
Have you wondered why one person might handle a challenging moment by quietly moving away for a moment while another will explode into violence? The difference lies in how they handle feelings of embarrassment and humiliation – a group of emotions that Psychologist Silvan Tomkins called affect shame.
Scratch beneath any behaviour that involves an attack on another person, and you will find shame, feelings many of us manage through a range of over-the-top, compensating behaviours that offer some short-term relief from shame, yet take a devastating toll on our connections to others.
THE COMPASS OF SHAME
Amazing behavioural transformations occur when we have a framework for understanding, recognizing and teaching kids about shame. We can transform how we deal with any moment in life that might make us feel lesser than or diminished. The applications of this are endless, ranging from engagement in learning to conflict resolution. When we better understand shame, our application of Restorative Practices becomes instantly more effective.
In this workshop, Bill introduces participants to Affect Script Psychology (ASP) – a powerful theory of human emotion and motivation that explains the how and why of caring. We will explore affect as the biological basis of emotion and how each of our nine inborn affects motivates us in different ways to ensure survival.
Most importantly, participants will learn through examples and case studies ways to help young people deal with shame in safe and pro-social ways. Understanding shame is critical for emotional intelligence and safe and connected communities.
When adults and students understand shame, schools become safer, more peaceful and productive places where relationships are built and restored much more effectively.