If there's a book that teaches restorative parenting, then this is it. We have captured approaches and strategies that exemplify authoritative parenting, that is parenting that is both firm and fair. The kind of parenting where kids feel in control of their choices because the behavioural boundaries are clearly communicated and lovingly enforced.
It’s cookbook-styled, with each chapter offering a typical problematic scenario that parents often face at home with their children and teens - accompanied with the ingredients that fire things up!
Then we offer a Recipe rescue as a problem solver: a practical way to respond to kids when they serve up tricky behaviours. Our Recipe rescues are designed to help parents steer the behaviour of their kids (and their own behaviour) in more positive directions, within the context of building healthy relationships.
Is raising kids as easy as cooking from a cookbook?
No way! But, ‘Beaut Kids’ just don’t happen! Children begin life by being naturally impulsive, and self-motivated. They look to parents to show sound judgment, compassionate leadership and to develop predictable boundaries and routines. Kids need parents who can make the tough calls when required, even when making these tough calls inconveniences parents a little. In short, our kids need parents that know ‘when to say yes, and how to say no’.
Is there an easy fix for the cranky, defiant or lazy behaviour that our kids dish up to us?
Probably not, but sometimes a simple tweak to our emotional response can make a big, big difference! Sometimes a planned longer-term approach is called for. One thing is for certain in this business of raising kids; it is that parents who learn to review what they’re doing, and are able to ‘check in’ with themselves on the important questions give themselves a real advantage. They ask themselves;
What kind of relationship do I want with my kids?
Am I living the dream I had for them, or do I need to make changes?
Do I lead the way at home and actually show the kinds of behaviours I want my kids to have? Or do I bark and bite at them, but expect them to be patient, kind and obedient?
Am I constantly knit-picking and reprimanding the kids when their behaviour isn’t right?
Or, am I too lenient and too concerned about been seen as a nice and friendly parent by my kids?
What kinds of kid behaviours get my attention?
Am I giving them the right attention, for the right reasons?
Am I rewarding the behaviours I want to see more of?
Is my parenting style permissive, over-bearing, neglectful, or do I parent decisively and fairly?
Does my style swing depending on the situation?
We think Raising Beaut Kids: Recipes for parents on when to say ‘yes’ and how to say ‘no is a ground-breaker.
It’s packed with sensible, straight forward ideas for parents to use, and to think about. Yes, it is confronting, and that's very deliberate! We've decided that parents deserve honesty so we've chosen not to tip-toe around the big issues because what's at stake is too precious to compromise!
Raising Beaut Kids:Recipes for parents on when to say ‘yes’and how to say ‘no’
Wrapping up Recipe rescue: Critical ingredients to set kids up for success!
So come on, take the challenge with us; explore Raising Beaut Kids: Recipes for parents on when to say ‘yes’ and how to say ‘no as a guide to build better behaviours and the best relationships with your children.
Keep an eye out as we will put different sessions from our manual up from time to time to time
Thinking and Behaving Restoratively doesn't come naturally to all kids. Restorative Practice is a way of thinking about people and events and it's a frame of reference that we can teach to young people. What's the result? Calmer, more peaceful and more productive classrooms and playgrounds. Evidence shows that schools that actively teach Restorative Thinking and Behaviour to students report less bullying behaviour, less anxious kids, less anxious parents and happier teachers.
The Grab and Go Circle Time Kit for Teaching Restorative Behaviour is unique. We've harnessed the Circle Time pedagogy, (also known as Circle Solutions) to create thirteen wonderful sessions to actually teach Junior Primary Students how to think and behave restoratively. Packed with wonderful illustrated stories and resources for use in the sessions, busy teachers can literally pick this manual up and run with it!
Session 1: Our Circle Time rules
Session 2: Inside and outside hurts
Session 3: Accidental and intentional hurts
Session 4: Helping others when they are hurt
Session 5: Dealing with arguments
Session 6: What we need when we are hurt
Session 7: What we need when we have hurt others
Session 8: Being strong and truthful
Session 9: Seeing things differently (perception)
Session 10: Blaming and Fixing
Session 11: Questions that help fix things
Session 12: Fixing up and showing sorry
Session 13: Forgiving others
Our Free Gift to You
We have uploaded a draft sample session, Session 10: Blaming and Fixing. We'd love you to download it and try it with your class!
"Working Restoratively in Schools" has been written with an understanding of on-the-ground school discipline from a classroom and school administration level. Suitable from Kindy to Secondary, this guidebook addresses many of the questions that schools have about the ongoing and sustainable implementation of Restorative Justice (RJ). Divided into 4 sections, this guidebook covers a wide range of topics from the basics of RJ, through to school-wide processes for embedding RJ in policy and practice. Written by Bill Hansberry - a classroom teacher and consultant, and drawing on the expertise of other well respected educators and consultants, this is a must-have resource for any school or centre that is serious about developing safer and more connected learning communities.
How Affect Script Psychology Explains How and Why Restorative Practice Works
Bill was lucky enough to write chapter 10 in this amazing publication that explains through several case studies, how and why Restorative Practices work to transform conflict and relationsips. Edited by Vick Kelly and Margaret Thorsborne, this work will take any restorative practioner to a new level of understanding about the emotional dynamics of helping people to navigate harm and conflict. This book will literally 'supercharge' anyone's ability to understand and respond to emotion.
Bill's chapter, written in consultation with Jane Langley is titled 'They Suck, School Sucks, I Suck: The Secret Emotional Life of a Child with a Brain that Learns Differently'. This fictional case study looks at the emotional impact of learning disability and ADHD on a child - Bradley, and the devestating impact these conditions have on his school life and his connections to peers and staff.
Restorative practices are explained in light of how they can help children like Bradley reconnect with others and then create more adaptive behaviours to deal with the constant impediments to interest and enjoyment that conditions like reading disability and ADHD create.