"Children's mistakes, even extreme ones, are inevitable and we need a way of processing these that is beyond punishment so that learning occurs" (anon)



SAPSCAI Conference Resources for download 


Dear fellow Counsellors,


I hope you enjoyed our day together, I certainly did. As promised, here are files for download that I hope will assist you to build teaching about affect shame into your work with young people. Please feel free to email me if you have any questions.




Session 1: "Dealing with feelings when things go wrong" (PowerPoint)

Student Quiz:"Dealing with feelings when things go wrong"session (word doc)

Shame Quiz (PowerPoint)

"Dealing with feelings when things go wrong" lesson notes

Article "Why is it Important to Teach Kids about Shame?" (pdf doc)







A Gift to you: Free Chapters from

"The Grab and Go Circle Time Kit for Teaching Restorative Behaviour"


The links below will take you directly to chapters from our new book "The Grab and Go Circle Time Kit for Teaching Restorative Behaviour: 13 Sessions for Junior Primary". Jane and I would love you to download them to use with your students. Share them with your colleagues and if you love them, buy the book!


In the Introduction you'll find handy ideas and information about best ways to engage students in Circle Time. You will also find (on page 16) a handy ready reference table to help you understand and respond to challenging behaviour in Circle Time.




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Our Free Gift to You enlightened

We have uploaded a draft sample session, Session 10: Blaming and Fixing. We'd love you to download it and try it with your class!

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Grab and Go Introduction

Session 2: Inside and Outside Hurts

Session 3: Accidental and Intentional Hurts

Keep an eye out as we will put different sessions from our manual up from time to time to time






Raising Beaut Kids: Recipes for parents on when to say ‘yes’ and how to say ‘no’














For FREE download from Raising Beaut Kids:


Every now and then, we will make a chapter available for free download as our gift to you. aising Beaut Kids is also available for sale on this website, or in all good bookstores.


Our chapter on 

Boredom is now available. Click here to open and download.














Free Morning Routinue Checklist from Chapter 11 to help the kids better organise the morning routine - click to download


















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Articles by Bill


Implementing Restorative Practices in Schools : Thoughts for Leaders


The differences between Circle Time and Restorative Justice



Websites you must visit


RP for Schools


Graeme George and the Villanova College crowd have put together one of the most fantastic, Restorative Practices resources on the net. Graeme George is truly a national treasure in Restorative Practices and is understanding of the emotional side of Restorative Practices (Affect Script Psychology) is stunning. This is a treasure-trove! Onya Graeme!


Kids Skills


A great resource for helping students create letters of apology. Makes them think! Follow the link below to the webpage and then click on 'the steps of responsibility' to find theapology letter maker:


Marist Youth Care


This organisation is doing wonderful work in schools. Check out their restorative justice newsletters - they have fantastic resources and ideas.


Rosehill College (NZ)


Bill Hubbard and the team at Rosehill College have been leading the way for many years in innovative applications of the restorative spirit. I had the privilege of meeting Bill Hubbard while he was on a 2007 study tour of Australian Schools. Bill has compiled a fantastic Blog with a wealth of information from his own learning. I recommend you follow the link to 'undercover teams' and read up on this extremely powerful approach for supporting victims of bullying using other students, including the perpetrators of the bullying!




Resources from Conferences - A Gift for You to download!


The secret life of the dyslexic learner: what all educators must know

Bill Hansberry

This PowerPoint is for a half day workshop on dyslexia where Bill explores this learning disability, the different ways it effects those who live with it, the myths, the science and some practical ways schools can help, not hinder our wonderful, bright dyslexic learners. This is a must for teachers.


The Secret life of the dyslexic learner



Explicitly teaching Restorative Thinking and Behaviour to Junior Primary Students

Bill Hansberry and Jane Langley

This session PowerPoint, accompanying notes cover Bill and Jane's presentation at the 2013 Restorative Practices International Conference in Melbourne, Australia.


Presentation notes:







"The teacher hates me"

The art of 'better conversations' with students after things go wrong

Bill Hansberry

This session PowerPoint, accompanying notes cover Bill's presentation on how to conduct a converation with upper primary and secondary students about their behaviour. Wallet cards with the six tips are available from Bill upon request.


Presentation notes:










Difficult Student Behaviour and Savvy Ways to Deal with it

Bill Hansberry & Mark LeMessurier

This session, presented to School Psychologists in Hervey Bay, Queensland, Australia, examines the four goals of student misbehaviour, as developed by Adler and Driekurs. This model has endured decades as one of the best models for understanding behaviour and dealing with it.


Presentation notes:



Jonah (Summer Heights High) Behaviour Analysis:







Shame & Difficult People

Bill Hansberry


This session, presented in Hervey Bay to School Psychologists looked at the role the emotion of shame in signalling to humans that their connections with others is at risk and the different ways people act when struggling to deal authentically with the shame experience.


To view Bill's presentation:

go to: http://prezi.com/0ejrxrjmxsk6/shame-and-difficult-people/

if that doesn't work, then:


Step 1: go to www.prezi.com

Step 2: click on the 'explore' tab at the top of the screen

Step 3: in the search box type 'shame and difficult people'

Step 4: you have it!


To get Bill's presentation notes for Shame & Difficult People:




Bradley Shame Exercise used during workshop:




Bradley Shame Proforma





Relationships First

Conference Resources


The Quotes you just couldn't get away from (even in the toilets!)

Some participants asked for a copy of all the quotes that were up around the room. The file below contains all of the quotes that were displayed during the conference as well as some extras. Please note that many of these quotes are paraphrased from the original source, so please use them with the conventions of correct referencing in mind.


Quotes are a powerful way for busy educators to tap into a wealth of educational research. As well as giving us an appetiser for a full and valuable piece of research, they can challenge our unconscious assumptions and invite us to look deeper into our own hidden ideas about education. When used with colleagues they can become powerful catalysts for deep conversation and learning.


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Why have a charter of norms for how we work together as professionals?

Over the two days of our conference we created and worked within a set of agreed group norms that made explicit how we would interact with one another as teaching professionals.


When groups set norms, participants feel safer to contribute and trust builds. Only when relational trust is established in a community will professional learning flourish.  Teachers are each other's best resource, this is utilised best when educators put de-privatize their practice by sharing their ideas and understandings with colleagues in emotionally safe and respectful environments.


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Connection Barometer:

This was used over the course of the two days of the conference for participants to privately track and plot their feelings of connectedness to the learning community.

Learners only feel safe to take risks and engage with learning in meaningful ways when there is a sense of acceptance and warmth (connection) with others in the class. Increased connectedness (cohesion) in class groups is achieved through pedagogies that build a sense of community such as Circle time, Restorative Practices and the Circle of Courage.


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Restorative Practices (practice) scenarios

These scenarios can be used to create role plays of impromptu restorative conferences where the general conflict restorative script is used. These are great for professional learning in staff meetings.


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Bill's list of the best Restorative Practices resources around!

The following link allows you to download a document containing what Bill believes to be some of the best resources for schools wishing to learn more about, and develop their collective skills to work restoratively with students, parents and colleagues. This list contains Bill's favourite books, videos, DVD's and websites.


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Belonging Strategy Proforma

This is a proforma developed by Travis that documents a plan of action to implement and monitor specific strategies aimed at improving relationships at an individual student (targeted), class or whole school (universal) level.


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Circle of Courage: Applications in the School or Pre-School

Developed by Kym Brown and Debbie Draper, this package is full of wonderful ideas for bringing the Circle of Courage to life in your school or classroom by using the strategies included to develop student or group levels of belonging, mastery, generosity or independence.


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Understanding The Circle of Courage

This article written by Kym Brown explains The Circle of Courage in an easy to understand and accessible way. The four components of the Circle of Courage: Belonging, Independence, Mastery and Generosity are explained in an easily understandable way. A must read for educators interested in the ingredients that make well connected and well adjusted learners.


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Circle of Courage and Restorative Practices: A serendipitous fit

This article, written by Travis and Bill explores the strong practical and theoretical links between Restorative Practices and The Circle of Courage.


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Exclusionary School Discipline Processes and Belonging

This discussion paper written by Travis and Bill is meant to be a dialogue starter for schools wanting to look at suspension, exclusion and expulsion (SEE) procedures through a student belonging and connectedness lens. Although SEE procedures are an important part of school and departmental responses to inappropriate behaviour, as a community of educators we need to engage in informed dialogue about what is to be gained and lost from using suspension and exclusion procedures, especially with our most disengaged and disaffected students.


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Resources developed by teams and individuals during the conference:

Below are resources that were developed during facilitation activities over the two days of the conference. The content of these resources represent the coming together of the fine educational minds that shared the Relationships First learning experience in the April 2008 holidays.


Relationship 1%ers

In Australian Rules Football, something called the '1%ers' are often talked about. The 1%ers are the seemingly insignificant efforts like shepherding a team mate after hand balling to them, tackling a player and then tackling another in quick succession or applying a well timed bump to an opposition player to protect a team mate etc. These small efforts add up to make a massive difference to the final result of a game but on their own are often not seen because there is nothing spectacular looking about them!


With building effective relationships in schools, the same idea applies. The little things (1%ers)  teachers do or say make an enormous difference to the relational feel of a school. These 1%ers create enormous positive spin offs for student and staff morale and levels of pro-social behaviour across entire schools (even the very big schools).


Conference participants and facilitators were asked to contribute to a list of relationship 1%ers over the 2 days of the conference. The below file is a collection of these. Please feel free to add to this list and return e-mail to Bill and one another. The more we can collect and share with one another the better for the students we teach and the colleagues we work with!    



Defining Relationships

This activity saw teams working on the very difficult task of trying to define what relationships. A process called the paper pen passing tool was used to allow definitions to emerge from consensus between individuals. 




Defining Restorative Practices in Schools

This task asked teams to develop the beginnings of a definition / rationale for working restoratively in their school. The importance of all staff in a school using the same language when explaining restorative practices to parents, colleagues and the broader school community was acknowledged - we all need to be talking the same language when someone asks us: "What is this restorative stuff all about?" 




What are the advantages of Circle Time for Students?

After being involved in some Circle Time activities specifically designed to build a sense of community in the group, participants were asked to list what they believed circle time had to offer their students back in schools. This is what they came up with:
















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